Friday, May 13, 2005
Opposition versus Conformity (Similarity)...Winner?
The first thought when i looked at my title...is the political sphere of Singapore...but too bad, i am not talking about that....Frankly, this blog entry is inspired by some creak's entry...To question the age old notion: That opposites attract...In the first place, i wonder where they get the idea from...could it be through nature? Laws of magnets? That unlike poles attract and like poles repel? Hee...to add on to that observation, in fact, i always hear people say...Handsome boyfriend always have unflattering girlfriend, and pretty girls are often attached to not so handsome boyfriends...haha..
Some friend of mine...(frankenstein) once told me about his ten point rule...that in courtship, each person will contribute his or her share of points..(should be character attributes?)..U need 10 points to make a relationship work...hm..me wonders, if that points to contributing differences...
As for me, i think that it depends on the kinds of comparisons we are looking at. I suppose people don't really mean extreme opposites right...Like hm...you like to be totally clothed from hair to toenails and your other half likes to walk around naked...or u are compassionate while the other person kills ruthlessly...(er....???)
I came across some interesting article...Which divided differences into 2 domains...(basically just means 2 groups la...), which are: Personality related attributes and Attitude related...
"What is most intriguing is that when the researchers assessed marital quality and happiness, they found that personality similarity was related to marital satisfaction, but attitude similarity was not." And that set me to think..what exactly is personality similarity? What about atttitudes? Having the same interests...where does that fall into? How about never say die mentality? Or perhaps, it would be good for us to look at the extent of similarity or differences...
And i realised that up to this point, i am really finding it hard to continue...THE BATTLE BETWEEN THE BRAINS AND BRAWNS...Brawns beat brains...1 to nil...for the moment! I SAID 'FOR THE MOMENT'..and dun the craznies out there suan me based on this!
by xiaojia at 5:30 PM |
2 Comments:
Contribute 10 points? huh.. i dun get it leh.. if contribute too much den how? if too little den how? How much is a point? When does a point become two??? Why 10? Why not 11 or 8 or 100000? Why 10??????????
And can include reference anot.
"What is most... ... was not." See.. so nice, even found ur ref for u.. haha..
You din paint the whole story. Couples were high on attitude similarity, with little or no above-chance personality similarity. But high personality similarity was key to maritial satisfaction...
Hmm.. i think that our personality is one factor that leads us to our attitudes. But the same or similar attitudes can result from different personalities. Kinda hazy on this as well.
Erm... so wat's ur take on the issue?
PS: Blogger is so restrictive. Can't use so many html tags... And now i realised, can't even allow me to set target for my hyperlink. Wahlau... blogger so paranoid sia.. @#%)*@#%*@#@#
...Need to be so fierece or not???Of cuz i din paint it...In the first place, i had told u i found it diffcult to continue...cuz there are just too many things to say at one go...being forth right factual would haf made it much too boring, which was not my objective...I didn't wanna do the article injustice by misquoting it, since i didn't make full use of it...what you have with u is merely a summary of the report, which, if you saw the whole paper, can make you trickle sweat...
In any case, the point i was trying to make was not that couples were "high on attitude similarity, with little or no above-chance personality similarity.", cuz first of all, my foucs was not on the research, but i had taken an interest on a point of finding of the conclusion...The next step would be to validate it...To see if it was true...Had i included the research point and the the conclusion, i would haf been painting some bleak pictures of couples, which was not my intention to. My objective had been to work out something that was light, casual. The scope is defnintely not heavy on facts. But rather, opinions...but there has to be some source, which was where i got my quotation from. So u get it now?
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